How to cultivate children's independence

China will study pre-school education, family education, the study sample had been in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Chongqing cities in the four carried out a survey of the independence of the child. Select a 4464 survey from 3 to 7-year-old child's parents, including family situation, the concept of parent education and behavior, Evaluation of the child's parents, parents hope their children, child personality development, family-based education and environmental conditions.

Survey, from 3 to 6 years old, the four major urban children to wear their own clothes from 25% to 45% growth, and do not want to wear their own clothes and the ratio of 3-year-old from 21% to 11% of the 6-year-old. Data from the point of view, be able to wear their own clothes and children's age and grew up in a marked increase. But in fact, the two-year-old child began to wear their own clothes and the desire and ability to 3-year-old will be able to dress up an independent. From the findings, to the 6-year-old, still a substantial proportion of young children not to wear their own clothes, no matter what factors are detrimental to the growth of young children.

In addition, a considerable number of indicators show the independence of the child, with no changes in the child's age and obvious differences. No matter the age of 3 or 6 years old, strong-minded children are about 40%, and not very assertive in the 8%; when children do things, from 3 to 6-year-old child, there are about 20%, even if they are able to Dry, but also want to help adults; do not want to be helpful to adults, accounting for only 8% of all children, and children with the age increase slightly lower; when faced with difficulty, about half of the children require To help other people, not fundamental changes in the age of growth. In addition, about 20% of the 3-year-old children often cry, to a 6-year-old remains the same.

As a result, experts generally agreed that family education for parents of the children do much to foster children's sense of independence of the severe shortage of child care in these areas no apparent progress, the children of the future development of extremely adverse.


Independent capacity-building key

Children cherish the independence of self-interest

Psychologists pointed out: When an independent child care activities to meet the requirements of some or adult support, child care on the show proud, happy, "self-esteem" and "proud" of the first self-feelings and attitudes, otherwise there Negative emotions and attitudes. As a result, we have to treasure the independence of the child intention to give warm encouragement and support to the independence of the continuous development.

Respect for children

Attention to the child's tone and manner of speaking, listening carefully to his speech, children, so that you are a child of respect for him. Do not forced to eat their children so that children do not command as much as possible tone. Do not blame the children in public, "fail to live up to," "fool" and "unpromising" and so on, it will deeply hurt the child's self-esteem. Equal to the attitude towards children. Facts have proved that: subject to full respect for the parents of the children, most of the others friendly, Dongli Mao, generous manner, strong sense of self-independence. This is a child psychologist that the respect that they deserve a good response.

Do not over-protect children

In Europe and the United States, parents attached great importance to the independence of the child's culture, they advocate an early age to cultivate children's sense of independence. A child was born, he let alone a hostel room, rarely live with their parents. A child learning to walk, fall, get up its own.

From the interest on the train

Let the children have to do anything to avoid a simple order to prevent them from working for any conflicts or emotional aversion psychology. Children's activities, games have a strong interest in doing so that child labor symbolic, to the game as far as possible, so that they will be with great interest to participate actively, if we can always adhere to the training, they will gradually develop a love Work habits. Independence and hard-working, esteem are inseparable, not labor, fear of hardship, how to uphold the independence and autonomy of this?

Slow decomposition action

According to the child's parents can decide what level of support. For example, a meal, the children may be at the beginning of independent meals when they do not know how to use spoon, how to put his mouth, parents can break down a meal of the action, step by step to teach the children.

Language essential guide

Although the child's understanding of language and communication skills are not very high, but if a clear demonstration of the movement with appropriate language to explain, would have a multiplier effect. The visual image of the action is the best interpretation of the meaning of language tools.[url] [/url][url] [/url][url] [/url]